Ask for help, find your life balance.

Stop the stigmatism in recovery. Think to be Different ™

Ask for help, find your life balance?

24 million Americans who are currently using illicit drugs and all family members and friends who are affected by this epidemic.

I believe this will inspire individuals suffering with addiction to seek treatment?

This video will help them understand that they are not the only ones suffering from this dilemma and that seeking help is not a sign of weakness. To admit an individual has a problem is great sign of a person’s inner strength and willingness to resist judgment.

How does this video work to end the stigma surrounding addiction?

It inspires those who have a drug dependency to find the courage to stand up for themselves, to take a different path, and not let illicit drug use of their past dictate their true character or their future.

What inspired me to create this video?

After 15 years of being involved in the drug/alcohol treatment community I have heard and witnessed thousands and thousands of individuals that never reached out for help for fear of being embarrassed, shamed and judged by their friends, families, and peers. These stories inspired me to write my book, “When Nobody’s Home,” which is meant to inspire those who suffer from addiction to look for solutions to the problem. My hope is to impact those who believe they are crippled by their own insecurities that addiction can be conquered and defined by their self-worth.

Take a look at the video:

Stop the stigmatism in recovery. Ask for help, find your life balance?


A book for Counselors, Social Workers, Deputy Probation Officers, and Educators

This book is published to expressly create a resource that can be used by people in the helping professions—by Counselors, Social Workers, Deputy Probation Officers, and Educators—so that more people in recovery from addiction get both clean and free and stay that way! When Nobody’s Home will help those who suffer from addiction, childhood trauma and are fatherless children.

Five Biggest Myths About Drug Addiction

Five Biggest Myths About Drug Addiction – Medical Expert Reveals Fiction Vs. Fact About Heroin, Cocaine, Meth and Marijuana.

Heroin addiction is largely confined to minority populations in poor, urban areas, right? Not so fast. While that might have been the profile of a heroin user 20 years ago, today’s addict is white, young and living in the affluent ‘burbs. As I have state in my book “When Nobody’s Home”.

So says a comprehensive new study called, appropriately, “The Changing Face of Heroine Use In The United States,” published this week by the journal JAMA Psychiatry.

Words Bookstore 179 Maplewood Ave, Maple

Book signing @ Words Bookstore 179 Maplewood Ave, Maplewood, NJ 07040 7/29/14 5-7pm #NewBook #WhenNobodysHome #amwriting @kindlepromoter @amazondeals

Understanding addiction and recovery

Book cover and author bio


When we believe we are helpless

When we believe we are helpless and our self-worth is in jeopardy individuals tend to shame themselves into destructive behavior. We can now learn that shame is a made up illusion that can be dispelled when the proper methods of healing are applied to the emotional wound.
Understanding the origins of core beliefs and how they can lead to pathological suffering is a requirement needed for healing and change

When Nobody’s Home…Physical and sexual abuse in the home

Perfect example of why I wrote “When Nobody’s Home…” I received a phone call from a distraught 30 year old black female who was arrested for “transporting” narcotics across state lines. She is currently bouncing from pillar to post with a 10 year old son, whose baby daddy is serving time is a state prison.  She called into the office because she stated she had a warrant out for her arrest.  As I looked into the computer, records showed that she has not reported to the office for over a year and since she was arrested in Texas I could not give her an answer.  Be that as it may, I decided to ask her how she got into her predicament.  I needed her to know how her family dynamics impacted her decision making process and how she ended up with a criminal record and a grand of probation.  She stated that her family life was chaotic and unsafe which is why she dropped out of the ninth grade and hit the streets.  She admitted the streets were safer than her home because of the physical and sexual abuse in the home.  She mentioned that her dad was never around and her mother had men coming in and out of the house. She became more frightened as she hit puberty because she saw how her mother’s boyfriends looked at her.  As she talked she began to cry because I was exposing the truth of her life and impact those experiences had on her.  She said she developed specific survival skills to deal the uncertainty of her life.  When I discussed stability, acceptance, hope, love, validation and security of home and family she stated that she has never experienced any of those needs.  One of her responsibilities of her probation is to enroll into a residential treatment program.  She said she did not want to enroll into a drug treatment program because she doesn’t not use drugs.  I said, I understand, however, “do you have a place to live or food to eat?”  She said, “no.”  “Have you ever had any stability in your life?”  She said, “no.”  “So, wouldn’t it be a good idea to live in a treatment facility to the experience what stability looks like or what a routine is? She said, “I never thought of it like that.”  I said this would be a great place to start.  However, there is a price you will pay for this experience, you will need to tell your son the truth of about why you are leaving him and how you are going to maintain communication with him while you are in the program.  Inform him that you want him to break the “prison cycle” of young black men.  Inform him that life does not revolve around the prison system and that he can be different.  Tell him your personal journey so he understands where you have been and the price you have paid for your choices.  I mentioned to her that she can do something different than what was has was expected. I shared with her that her being comfortable with her family members going to prison is no different than my family members going to college.  It is all we know.  She stated that for the first time in her life she actually felt relief about her situation and a plan for herself.  As we ended the conversation she mentioned how grateful she was for the guidance, faith, and information. She said no one has ever talked to me like you did.  I said, I just wanted you to know  your journey is usually what happens “When Nobody’s Home…”


My daughter is on a meth binge

As the mother began to talk about her past drug use as a young women she mentioned how she was abandoned, neglected by her father and how her mother tried to be there for her but she was too emotionally frail to offer any support for as she was growing up. As a young mother with no paternal support she mentioned how she used drugs, partied, and would leave her daughter in the apartment by herself for days at a time in order to satisfy her drug fix. The mother began to tell other stories where she left her daughter with strangers or anyone who would take her so she could go off and get high. I began to see the tears well in her eyes as she was telling the stories while looking at her daughter. The daughter did not say anything while her mother spoke about her past, she continued to look down trying not to be seen. The mother looked down at the ground and for the first time realized how her behavior impacted her daughter. In her defense, she proceeded to tell me that her irresponsible behavior that was behind her. She stated that she and her current companion are doing really well in life by working a business together, making enough money to pay the bills and staying out of trouble. She continued to say that she has finally found peace and predictability in her life.

to be continued…