When Nobody’s Home…An in-depth look at Drug Dependency through the eyes of a Probation Officer “behind the…

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The “behind the scenes” behavior in early family dynamics is where long-term damage is done to a young psyche. Therefore, it is always my intention when in a counseling role to understand where trauma first occurred for the person who is my client for often that is where emotional development gets stunted or continues through a warped “filter.”

A quote from my soon to be published book.

When Nobody’s Home…An in-depth look at Drug Dependency through the eyes of a Probation Officer

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QUESTION: “DOES VIOLENCE BREED VIOLENCE?” IS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE TRANSMITTED DOWN THROUGH FAMILY GENERATIONS?

My answer was:Speaking from clinical experience and interviewing thousands of clients violence does beget violence and DV can carry over from generation to generation if the behavior is not addressed. We need to understand that children can be affected differently when violence is witnessed in the home. Some children’s “ego” strength are stronger than others, meaning they have the ability to not let outside influences or messages determine how they will function in the world. Therefore, these individuals will not repeat what made them feel uncomfortable. On the other hand, a child witnessing DV may learn that “if I see the impact of physical violence and who wins the battle I will apply these methods so I can have a better chance to survive in the world.” The child will usually identify with one or the other parent’s behavior as having greater survival value. We can also talk about how traumatic or terrifying experiences can alter the chemistry in the brain and the individual may respond to stressful situation through violent behavior. There are so many variables involved that influence a child’s response to trauma one can only hope the behavior is not repeated.

When Nobody’s Home…An in-depth look at Drug Dependency through the eyes of a Probation Officer

To date, I have conducted over eight thousand plus interviews with alcohol and drug offenders, regarding their drug/alcohol dependency. All had several basic characteristics in common that propelled these individuals to start using drugs at a very young age in most instances; that would continue for many years into adulthood.  With that in mind, this book reviews and explains the “Needs Based Method” of alcohol and drug abuse and how this approach brings to question the reason “why.” When Nobody’s Home…An in-depth look at Drug Dependency through the eyes of a Probation Officer

Michael S. Oden., MA., Author

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When Nobody’s Home…An in-depth look at Drug Dependency through the eyes of a Probation Officer

What would cause a person to use drugs if it “really” was not beneficial for them? I was determined to go behind the scenes with my clients and come to understand what “need(s)” were being met by consuming drugs from day to day and year after year. Otherwise, why would a person choose this type of behavior? I had a difficult time believing that these individuals had some disease of the mind, that they would never recover fully and to avoid relapse that they would need to attend support meetings–literally for the rest of their lives. A lifetime of meetings couldn’t be the only workable solution, could it? This is why I wrote “When Nobody’s Home…” An in-depth look at Drug Dependency through the eyes of a Probation Officer

Michael S. Oden MA., Author

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When Nobody’s Home….

I believe that any person we meet, regardless of their length of stay, is part of our life journey and they assist in nourishing our lives; for good or bad. What we take from their involvement is based on how you view yourself. It is all in ones way of thinking. When you make the conscience effort to change the way you think, you start to see that the things around your change as well; a mirror reflection of our own mental perception. Developing the ability to unplug from our childhood and allowing ourselves to grow into adulthood, “shackle free”, we realize that our foundation does not have to be the blueprint of our future. But better yet, stones that make up the mountain of “us”.
believe that any person we meet, regardless of their length of stay, is part of our life journey and they assist in nourishing our lives; for good or bad. What we take from their involvement is based on how you view you rself. It is all in ones way of thinking. When you make the conscience effort to change the way you think, you start to see that the things around you change as well; a mirror reflection of our own mental perception. Developing the ability to unplug from our childhood and allowing ourselves to grow into adulthood, “shackle free”, we realize that our foundation does not have
to be the blueprint of our future. But better yet, stones that make up the mountain of “us”.
childhood traumas
http://Michaeloden.com

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“When Nobody’s Home…” book release

This person decided it was important enough to make contact with someone in the literary world. So, to make a long story short we now have a Literary Agent, on the East Coast, who is willing to represent the book, “When Nobody’s Home…” Is this a dilemma or is this good fortune? Any suggestions?

Michael S. Oden MA., Author

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“When Nobody’s Home…” book release

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So here is the problem. The initial editor believed it was beneficial to have another editor fine tune the project.  Well, as she read the book, a couple of chapters hit home and she decided to share a portion of the book, “When Nobody’s Home…”  to a friend in the publishing world.  The book was well received by this person.  Book release date TBD

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